Sam Klein, Editor
Another academic year is upon us here at La Salle, and while you may be a freshman just beginning your collegiate career, or a senior eager to end it, this is a note for all Explorer students. I believe there are difficulties that arise each year as a student, and misconceptions surrounding college life create expectations that only worsen these already burdensome standards. It is not only first year students that are adjusting to a world full of unknowns this fall that need to read this, but second years who might be as homesick as they were in their first, juniors who question if they chose the right major and seniors apprehensively looking into the future with a combination of fear and desire for what is to come. Let me provide you the reassurance you need, and the manifestation of positive energy for the upcoming year.
1. No one knows what they’re doing
Even if someone tells you that they know what they’re doing, or what they want, they do not. Oftentimes, those who appear the most put together are lost too. It is cruel the way society expects an 18-year-old to choose a school, pick a major and study for a career in a field they will work in for the rest of their lives- or so, that is how the system is set up. Rarely, however, are our choices in life permanent. What 18-year-old you wants might not match the desires of a 22-year-old you or the career goals of a seasoned employee at 35. Thankfully, there is always the opportunity to pivot and continue. It is more than okay to not know what you want or to change your mind numerous times before settling on a decision that leaves you feeling content and purposeful. In this way, life is a ballet. You can take leaps of faith, get turned around so many times, but somehow finish on two feet with your head held high. Isn’t that beautiful? Isn’t it remarkable that we get the chance to choose exactly who we want to be; that this is the first and only life we are given, and it is our own to design?
2. You are right on time. You are not falling behind.
Everyone is on their own timing. Some might be walking at a brisker pace, others sprinting towards the horizon. Some paths might intersect, momentarily, and then depart once again. But your path is strictly your path. It does not matter if you are crawling along it, skipping or walking backwards. Comparison is well known as the thief of joy. No one gets a medal or a special prize for figuring things out first- whether that be making new friends, finding an internship, choosing a major. You will get there, perhaps not on the timeline you anticipated, but the timeline your path called for. This calling might come in the form of a whisper or a shout right in the face, and despite its volume, it will not lead you astray.
3. The opportunity to be who you want to be starts today, with you.
When you were younger, you were probably asked the question, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” To that I imagine many responded, “A teacher!”, “A firefighter!”, “A doctor!,” but have you asked yourself that question recently? What do you want to be? Perhaps the answer to that question has changed since you initially answered it a decade ago. Maybe now instead of a firefighter you simply want to be happy or someone that makes even just one person smile every day. It is possible that “future teacher” now wants to start a podcast about sports or write a romance novel. This question isn’t limited to young dreamers, but extended to the present, to the “future self” a younger you imagined when answering this question. After all this time, maybe the answer is still the same; nevertheless, I propose a new question: What are you going to do about it? Perhaps you are in school to fulfill that dream of becoming a doctor, but it’s possible what you want is within reach right now. You just want to be happy? What are you going to do about it? That book you’ve wanted to write- why are you waiting? College can serve as an incredible gateway opportunity to accomplishing these dreams, but do not let it diminish your efforts to fulfill others. Right now, we have the privilege to make mistakes and learn from them in a setting designed for us to simply “try again” when we fail. Use that to your advantage.
4. Your soul is a cup, fill it.
Life is merely too short to continuously put yourself in situations that do not serve you. Taking care of you is a full-time job, do it well. Remove yourself from negative energy and replace it with people and things that ignite a fire within you. Your soul cannot function on an empty cup. Sometimes we neglect the things that make us happy because we are afraid of the judgment it might entail from others. While selflessness is a noble trait, you have to be your own biggest supporter. You do not need to justify doing what makes you happy, even if that means not thinking of others or letting go of things that once did fill your soul. You are allowed to be exactly who you are and who you want to be. It says more about those who do not see it that way than it does about you.
5. Empathy is your best friend.
Remaining kind through adversity, long nights, and bad days will follow you way past your collegiate career. It is an important skill to carry into life for the sake of others, but also for your own sanity. Everyone has their own baggage and problems, so perhaps when you want to ream out a professor for taking weeks to grade a paper, ask yourself, “What are they dealing with that is making them take so long?” Instead of getting annoyed with a roommate for acting distant, ask the “why?” The explanation might not be justifiable for the action, but at least you chose empathy first. This pertains to the self as well- being understanding of your own intrinsic circumstances and struggles that might be affecting your school performance or social dynamics. It is so easy to be our own worst critic that it would benefit everyone to reflect on their own “why?” and cut themselves some slack.
Good luck this year. At the very least, know you have one supporter in your corner cheering you on. I see you; I recognize the perseverance to push through despite any hardships, and I am endlessly proud of your desire to succeed.